Lessons from Stress

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My recent presentation on Buzztalk radio  was about my favourite topic stress and stress  management and the importance of self care.   See the link here.  All feedback is welcome.

 

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Say “Yes to the Power of Saying “No”

The importance of establishing personal boundaries with the people in your life.

Earlier in the month of December  before all of the holiday frenzy,  I had to opportunity to have a  chat with Krisha Young on her podcast Cabernet and Kale. Take a listen at the link below as we talk about  the power of creating healthy boundaries.

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Copy/paste link attached. Enjoy

https://www.krishayoung.com/cabernet-kale-episode-023/

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Mastering Cultural Diversity: 5 Reflective Questions That Will Make You an Effective Manager

Source: Mastering Cultural Diversity: 5 Reflective Questions That Will Make You an Effective Manager

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My Self-Esteem Movie

WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM?

My Definition: 

“Self esteem is the art of  knowinStrongSelfImageg who you are and what you want, trusting your heart and  living a truly authentic life based on your own sense  of self-worth and values. It is about being totally unapologetic  about what you stand for regardless of what others  might think of you. It is from this perspective that you  hold self respect for yourself, while garnering self-respect for others.”

So just be and live who you are.

Enjoy the mini movie of self-esteem quotes that I created.

See the link here.

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Hillary Speaks Out American Women and Public Service

 

It was good to see Hillary Clinton back on the public stage participating in a Women’s International Day event in New York City. If ever there was an example of resilience and “bounce back ability” she would be it.

 

Describing her failed campaign to be elected as the first female president of the USA as “life handing her setbacks,” Clinton  heralded  the support and encouragement she received from her family and friends as being pivotal in her journey back from “failure to success.”  (https://goo.gl/SzX8Zh)

It seems that her time in retreat has been spent on reflection and she is moving to a place of renewal and is now  planning the next stage of her career.

Failure to Success: Lessons from Hillary  https://goo.gl/SzX8Zh

 

Although the former secretary of state talked about the need for more women to  actively run for public office and take on leadership roles in their communities, she did not talk about the tough veneer those women need  to have  in order to play in  a US political  arena dominated by misogynistic men.

 

Unlike many other countries throughout the world Canada, France, Germany, Great Britain, India,  Israel, Jamaica,  Norway, Poland………  the list goes on, who have managed to accept the idea that a woman can lead a country, the USA alas, is  not yet  ready to break that  glass ceiling.

 

The political fiasco in Washington that the world is witnessing right now, sadly sends a message to women that  no matter how much public leadership experience you have, no matter how smart, intelligent, and suitable a candidate you are, we would rather elect a man to run the country, even if he his disingenuous, lacks the skills, values, and temperament required for the position.

 

In spite of this set back, the number of women running for public office has risen sharply since Clinton lost the 2016 Presidential Election.

In her International Women’s Day 2017 message, Clinton reminds us that “the unfinished business of the 21st Century is the “shattering of stereotypes” and  the full equality of women.” In this regard the  many women who are now running for public office in the USA will need unrelenting support.

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Failure to Success: Lessons from Hillary

486487-success-failureIt’s easy to stay motivated when everything is going smoothly. But when the going gets tough, that’s another story. According to Hillary Clinton speaking at an International Women’s Day event, “life does hand you setbacks.”

Perhaps you didn’t pass an audition or a screen test that would have been a big break for you.

Maybe you didn’t get the job promotion you were expecting.

Or you asked your true love to marry you and were rejected.

Maybe you ran for office and, like Hillary, you lost.

Whatever your failure, it can leave you feeling angry, ashamed, unsure of yourself, disheartened, and more. Maybe you want to shrink away or even lash out. You might even want to give up.

Don’t.

You may need to retreat, you may need to review, but after you re-assess your situation, you can renew and achieve your goals.

Here are three lessons we can we can learn from Hillary Clinton in terms of regaining our motivation after failure:

Making-the-Journey-Lasting-School-Health-Initiatives-11. It’s okay to lick your wounds.

If everything has blown up in your face, you deserve to feel sorry for yourself. Whine, complain, cry, sing the blues, or visit your mother and let her make you tea.

Play with the grandkids.

Eat a whole cheese cake.

Call your best friend and let him boost you back up.

It’s okay; you’re allowed. You suffered a loss, so you can grieve.

The caveat is that you have to make it time limited. Give yourself a day or two, two weeks if you must, but six months later, if you are still singing the same song, then you are probably depressed and have a problem.

And I think that is what we saw Hillary do. She retreated. There were reports of people seeing her walking in the woods. She was regrouping and connecting to nature. She stayed out of the public eye for a short while and probably gave herself some well-earned rest.

That’s what you do. Take some time out for a short, period of time. And then, when your pre-defined time is up, you get back up and get back to work.

Why?

Because that’s what successful people do.

2.          Reassess.

When you are ready, it is time to have a clear-eyed look at what happened. Re-assess. You want to do this with some detachment. But you don’t want to be a scab picker, who just focuses on the negatives and what went wrong. You also want to look at what went right. In fact, it might be helpful to not even use those words, right/wrong. Think in terms of what you did well and what you could have done differently.

This gives you a broader perspective and takes you outside of yourself. If you analyze the failure correctly, you’ll figure out what changes you could have taken.

And once again we saw this with Hillary Clinton. In her campaign there were things she could have done differently. She could have campaigned in certain states; she could have reached out and connected to the “basket of deplorable people” she talked about.

She could have been more responsible with her damn emails.

As we saw, there were bigger issues at play. Who knew that she would have been blindsided by James Comey in the last few days running up to the election. And, as we now know, there was interference from the Russians.

Often, when we fail at something, there are bigger issues at play and you will have to figure out what that means for you.

Failure is feedback if used constructively. Don’t think a failure means you’re not good enough. Just think that a failure means your plan needs work.

3.          Get back in the saddle.

When you have defined for yourself what your errors were, come up with alternative plan. Maybe the door to what you want is closed, but as we know, a window is open somewhere.

It is time to build up your resilience and “bounce back ability” muscle. We all have one.

You have to restart using those things that you used to motivate yourself in the first place. Re-establish your positive thinking routines. Visualize yourself coming back from this failure and going forward to success. Practice positive affirmations that describe you overcoming your setbacks. Look in the mirror and make statements describing yourself with positive characteristics, such as, “I am resolute. I am indefatigable. I am steadfast. I am competent. I am confident.”

Connect to your mentors, your coaches, your master mind group, and surround yourself with positive, like-minded people.

So maybe for Hillary she can now invest her time and energy in more global initiatives with her foundation. Maybe that will allow her to have a bigger impact internationally in more far reaching ways than she could have had as a president of the USA.

You may have to re-jigger your path to your goal. You may even have to tweak the goal. But don’t give up. Don’t ever get up. Get back in the saddle and ride. You can take control of your life and improve it in the way you want by learning from your failure and trying again.

Remember Winston Churchill’s sage advice: “Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts.”

If you like this post please share. Your feedback and comments both positive/negative are always welcome. Happy International Women’s Day to both women and men.

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