article-2527643-1A3E47B200000578-262_634x291How To Enjoy Your Christmas Family Get-Together

It is so easy to get caught up in the nostalgia and hype of Christmas. This time of year we are bombarded with movies promoting happy family experiences.  Whatever struggle our movie protagonist   seems to have   endured, they   always   seem to resolve their conflict and make it home for Christmas.  Fade out to Silent Night – we see the happy family seated around the table enjoying their turkey dinner.


For many, holiday gatherings can be stressful.  With the idealized family picture in our heads we  are forced to connect and reconnect with family members we rarely see. It is a time when old grudges can resurface, old stories can get repeated, and unresolved family dynamics get replayed.


How can we cope and not be defeated by the high expectations of the season?


The recipe, lower your expectations.  Embrace a simple fact that most families range from being idiosyncratic to being down right dysfunctional.    Just coming to terms with this simple concept can release a tremendous amount of pressure and allow us to relax a little.   Sit back, observe, and enjoy the quirkiness of your family.  Think of your family as a sitcom and relish the fact that your family isn’t dull or boring.


Let go of resentments. Does it really matter what your sister said to your husband last Christmas. You haven’t’ seen her since then; yet,  you’ve been stewing over her snide remarks for the past year and your ready to “zing” her if she starts in on him again.  Just let it go.  Think of all the negative energy you’ve wasted holding on to all that resentment.  Be the bigger and better person – Just let it go.


Take some time out for yourself, where you can to just “chill” and relax.   I’m reminded of my best  friend  Beth, when  I called  to wish her Merry Christmas last year, she  couldn’t stop to talk because she  had put the turkey in the oven and was on her way to the YMCA for a quick swim; before, as she put it,  the “bedlam of the  family descended  upon her for dinner. “ Talking with her later that night, she said it was the best Christmas she ever had.   Going for that swim, had allowed her to relax and   take care of herself and rendered her better able to mange her stress and cope with some of her crazier family members.  Think about when and where you can take some time out to be by yourself this Christmas even if it is just going for a walk.


By the way, others may need some time out too. It’s ok   if someone does not want to participate in an activity, watch   the same TV show etc.    Everyone needs a little space and too much family togetherness can be wearisome for some people.  Just remember we all need our own space from time to time.


Remember things don’t have to be perfect and “Murphy’s Law” will often surface  on these occasions. You have three turkeys, no ham, and no roast beef as you planned. Why can’t your sisters cooperate and get  things right? After all you meticulously   told them what to bring.  Don’t panic.  Adaptability, Creativity, Flexibility, Patience and Tolerance, are the skills required here.   It’s not the end of the world.  Three months from now none of this will be important or matter.


Remember the Christmas story. What do you do with a pregnant wife, just about to give birth, and there are no rooms left to rent in the city. You don’t panic.  Well maybe you do! Regardless,   Adaptability, Creativity, Flexibility, Patience, and Tolerance are  the skills required.


It’s important to appreciate the family that we have, such as it may be.  There are many people who for many reasons, do not have the benefit and joy of sharing their Christmas with a family at this time of year.  Let’s remember that it is the Season of Good Will and Good Will starts with our immediate family.


xmas wreath




About Em-Powered-Solutions

Veronica's purpose in life has been to inspire, motivate and empower individuals and organizations to help them to find creative solutions in transforming their situation or circumstances. She has a demonstrated track record of making a difference in the lives of people and organizations. Her expertise includes services in the area of public speaking presentations, key note addresses; facilitation of seminars and workshops in the following areas: health, wellness, stress management, self esteem building, relationship building, emotional healing, empowerment strategies, personal motivation and growth with large and small organizations, as well as providing 1-1 counselling and coaching to individuals in these areas.
This entry was posted in Empowered Solutions. Bookmark the permalink.

1 Response to how-to-enjoy-your-family-christmas-get-together

  1. Pingback: 5 Ideas to Help you Embrace the Holiday Season | Em-Powered – Solutions

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s