HOW TO STOP THE BULLY IN YOUR HEAD

HOW TO STOP THE BULLY IN YOUR HEAD AND PUT HIM IN HIS PLACE

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The Top 10 List of the Most Self-Sabotaging Entrepreneurial Behaviours that Cause Impostor Syndrome

Do you struggle with self-doubt and questions your abilities as an entrepreneur?

Do you feel like a fraud sometimes and worry that people will find out that is how you feel internally,  despite the contrary  external evidence of your abilities?

Does Impostor Syndrome affect your mindset as an entrepreneur?

The fact is that if Impostor Syndrome is interfering with your mindset it is interfering in your business.

• It affects how you show up
• It affects how you promote yourself
• It affects how you interact with others
• It affects how your manifest abundance
• ……..And that affects your bottom line financially

 

Here is a list of 10  self-sabotaging   behaviours that entrepreneurs   display  that can  cause  Impostor Syndrome.  Identifying with  any three items on this list, is an indicator that Impostor Syndrome is lurking around and affecting your entrepreneurial mindset on some level.

 

1. You are afraid to put yourself and your services out into the world because you fear failure or rejection

 

2. You’re so overwhelmed with anxiety that you procrastinate and have difficulty following through and getting things done

 

3. You are in a constant state of busyness and disorganization because you are unclear, ungrounded and unfocussed and use this as a form of distraction and avoidance

 

4. You doubt your abilities so you chase after every course, workshop and training there is thereby staying in learning mode and not shifting to earning mode

 

5. You have difficulty owning the value of yourself and your services so you don’t charge what you are worth or you keep giving away your services for free

 

6. Without knowing what goes on behind the scenes you to compare yourself and your performance to other entrepreneurs who you feel are more successful than you, thereby creating your own sense of despair

 

7. Constantly working from push energy and failing to implement replenishing energy activities in your life creating high levels of stress that lead to burn out

 

8. Feeling insecure about your talents, skills and the services that you provide and fearing that people will find out that you feel insecure

 

9. Difficulty accepting praise and compliments and difficulty enjoying your success

 

10. Trying to do everything on your own without getting  the right support to bolster  the areas that  you do not thrive in.

 

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My latest radio interview on REAL TALK Radio

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Job Interview Stress 3 Tips to Get you Through

There is nothing more stressful than having to go to a job interview.  You know you are qualified. You know you have the skills.  You know you have the experience. But, when it is  your first job in a new country, when you are  a foreigner all of those feelings of self doubt,  feeling that your not good enough, that you don’t quite cut the mustard tend to show up.  When they do it can create an enormous amount of stress.   Staying in the stress zone for long periods can seriously  affect your mental health and well being.

I was happy to  participate in an interview with John Ribiero  over at Zero2Hired  during International  Mental Health Month, where I share 3 tips to help newcomers seeking employment manage  their stress, mental health and overall well-being  when  seeking employment.

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Let’s Talk: The Secret Entrepreneurs Don’t Talk About

 

THE SECRETS OUT

Entrepreneurs have higher rates of mental health-related illness compared to the rest of the population at large

Canadian research from THE MINDSET PROJECT indicates that poor mental health is the single greatest challenge facing entrepreneurs today.

We’re not just talking about stress, although stress is a part of it, we are talking about anxiety, depression and, to some extent, suicide.

With the increase in suicides amongst high-profile entrepreneurs and business men,  such as Adam Swartz (one of the co-founders of Redditt), Austin Heinz (founder and CEO of Cambrian Genomics), and Jody Sherman (of Ecomom) … the list goes on …, there has been a huge spotlight shining on the field of entrepreneurship.

When you hear someone like Tim Ferris, famous six-figure entrepreneur and best-selling author, talk about his struggles with depression, or someone like Marc Andresson of Netscape, Elon Musk of Tesla, Noah Kagen of Sumo and many others all identify their struggles with entrepreneurship and mental health, you know that we are shining the light on a hidden, taboo subject.

Breakingthesilence.co.uk founder David Beeney discussed overcoming his own anxiety and panic attacks. He was a commercial director at Auto Trader but had spent his entire career hiding his anxiety disorder before……{disclosing his secret publicly} in 2016.

According to the work of Dr Michael Freeman of the University of California in the USA, 30% of the entrepreneurs he studied in the US  faced depression.

The Mindset Project in Canada in their research has come up with similar results.

Entrepreneurs all over the world appear to be struggling with  issues pertaining to mental health and are reluctant to  talk  openly about it.

When we talk about mental health, we’re talking about our mental well-being: our emotions, our thoughts and feelings, our ability to solve problems and overcome difficulties, our social connections, and our understanding of the world around us.  Having poor mental health is associated with emotional distress and psycho-social impairment.

When the demands placed on any individual exceed their resources and coping abilities, their mental health will be negatively affected. Working long hours under difficult circumstances, is one of the many demands we place on our selves as entrepreneurs.

Other issues include:

• Poor work life balance
• Isolation
• Neglecting of health
• Overwhelm due to a constant barrage of new and changing information
• Poor sleep hygiene and not enough down-time
• Not enough support
• Too much push energy

When you are an entrepreneur, it can be as if you are dealing with a moving target – information seems to be always changing and you are always in learning mode. This constant state of learning can eventually become overwhelming.

With a new business venture or service there can be high levels of uncertainty in terms of finances and clients – there can be many factors that are out of your control, and all of which will impact your business and impact your interpersonal relationships.

So it should come as no surprise that 17% of business owners struggle with some form of anxiety disorder compared to 5% of the general public (Canadian Mental Health Association).

Depression is the most common form of mental health afflicting 16.7% of entrepreneurs  compared to 8% of the general public (CMHA).

There should be no surprise here.  Entrepreneurs are notorious for working long hours and exposing themselves to relentless stress.

Why are entrepreneurs reluctant to talk about this as an issue?

This is a question asked by Camilita Nuttall in a recent interview conducted and seen on Facebook  Live (see presentation here).Interview with Camilita Nuttall Business Industry Rockstar on Mental Health and Entrepreneurship

 

“There is a huge amount of pressure as a founder to never show weakness and to be the cheerleader in all internal and external situations,” says Sam Altman, Y-Combinator Entrepreneur. “The world can be falling down around you — and most of the time when you’re running a company – and you have to be strong, confident, and optimistic. Failing is terrifying, and so is looking stupid.”

Entrepreneurs can have unrealistically high expectations about their abilities and business performance.  There can be a discrepancy between their expectations and the actual reality of how they and the business are performing.  It is this gap between expectations and reality that can be the root cause of entrepreneurial distress.

In addition to this, projecting confidence and being self-assured is all part of being a successful entrepreneur – tapping into our vulnerability and sharing this human aspect of ourselves about our business, even  when it is to someone we trust, can be threatening to our self-esteem and ego.

What does it take to turn the corner on this issue?

We need to make some paradigm shifts.

The most important shift is understanding this concept: Your most important asset in your business is YOU, the Entrepreneur.

Your overall well-being – your mental and physical health – is the business.  Without you, the entrepreneur, the business can only go so far.  Running on empty just doesn’t cut it.

Our health is often the first thing we sacrifice – who has time for self-care? After all, the business comes first.

But the fact is our mental health is really the first thing we have to invest in. That is how we build resilience to deal with the ups and downs of everyday life as well as the ups and downs of entrepreneurship.

Those driver traits that make a successful entrepreneur can also be the very same traits that lead to their downfall. The push-push-push energy that we extol will eventually lead to breakdown, both physical and mental, if work is not put into perspective.

What I mean by push energy is the driver mentality that we use to continuously exert ourselves, constantly doing, always in action, relentless go-go-go where we are constantly going beyond our limits. Shifting to replenish energy before things get out of control is both vital and necessary. Investing in our replenishing of energy is about restoring, refueling, and reconnecting with ourselves and our needs on a daily basis.  Some will see this as indulgent.

The paradigm shift here is mindfulness – being mindful as to where we are in our energy and knowing when we need to be in push energy mode and knowing when we need to replenish – and taking responsibility to do so.

The third paradigm shift that we need to embrace is the concept and idea of  seeking help.  This can include connecting with and working with a coach or therapist.  Working with someone who can challenge us objectively, and keep us accountable, and who can help us to develop more self-awareness and self-compassion so that we don’t ignore the physical symptoms and warning signs that can ultimately lead to us breaking down. This is both vital and necessary to building our resilience, and strengthening our mental health and well-being if we are to stay in the entrepreneurial game.

“I’m a work in progress; I still have to be kind to myself,”   says Freelance consultant Naomi  Timperley, one of  Computer Weekly’s Most Influential Women in Tech IT 2017. “It’s okay to not be okay.  Admitting that you’re not okay is not a bad thing.”

Timperley opened up about her experiences with anxiety and depression and stressed the importance of looking after yourself  and getting help if  needed, while speaking out  at  Business Cloud’s ‘Entrepreneurs and Mental Health ‘ event in the UK,  April 2018..

If you’re going through difficult times as a founder or entrepreneur, know that you are not alone — and that there are others out there who are eager to listen and help.

Don’t be a statistic, one of the 36% of entrepreneurs who identified that they needed to seek help but did not do so.

 

Veronica Hislop is the founder of Em-Powered-Solutions Transformation Strategies where she provides workshops, presentations, 1-1 and group coaching to entrepreneurs and people in business. Her “Ninja Stress-busting” techniques help her clients to manage their stress, prioritize their needs, and set healthy boundaries in their interpersonal relationships so that they can get clear, focused and grounded in their business – thereby creating the ultimate success that they desire.

Click here to book a FREE ½ hour Power Consultation with her now:

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